- Yelling/screaming to intimidate a partner
- Using inappropriate language or cursing to embarrass or humiliate a partner
- Threatening violence against a partner, partner’s family, or partner’s friends
- Verbal threats of violence
- Physical conduct (such as hand gestures or raised fists)
- Sexual contact of any kind that is coerced by force or threat of force
- Persistent use of abusive or threatening language
- Persistent following of the person from place to place (stalking)
- Depriving that person of the use of property
- The watching of or constant presence at the place where the person resides, works, carries on business or happens to be (surveillance)
- Interfering with or damaging the property of the person;
- Persistent telephoning
- Making unwelcome and repeated contact with a child or elderly relative;
Pattern of behaviour, the purpose of which is to exercise coercive control over, or exploit or limit a person’s access to financial resources so as to ensure financial dependence. E.g. withholding a partner’s paycheck, failing to meet financial obligations, attempting to control a partner’s money or job prospects
- Intentional use of physical force or power
- Kicking, biting, pushing, punching, or strangling
1. Talk to someone like a neighbour, friend or a family member. Maintain relationships outside that with your abuser.
2. Seek out agencies that can help you. Call 800-SAVE in case of emergency.
3. Lean on your support system as you get help. Your family, friends, religious groups and workplace can create safety and support.
4. Remember your worth, there is only one of you in this world. You are a gift.- Seek out agencies that can help you. Call 800-SAVE in case of emergency.
5. Attend counselling or therapy to make changes and process trauma.
6. Remember that it is not your fault. No one deserves abuse
7. Avoid contact if you can help it. Stay in separate rooms or spend as little time at home as possible.
8. Maintain or establish financial independence.
9. Be extra cautious of partners with a history of abuse or addiction.
10. Recognize possessive behaviour or monitoring is not loving or caring.
11. Pay attention to early signs like your partner wants to control everything you do, who you talk to and where you go.